What is that defect, flaw or vice of yours that you're working on? How are you working on it? How long has it taken? These days, I'm trying to cure myself of a propensity to feed off drama, through emotional sobriety. It involves not getting interested in people's drama, not giving unsolicited advice to friends, more generally, staying "outside" whatever is happening while still listening to friends in the midst of it; e.g., I'm learning the difference between being sympathetic and being over-involved like a child engrossed in a movie. This is long, but it's getting there, although the hardest part is maybe to get used to the quietness.
Anonymous :
1 day ago :
No.6254
>>6257
>>6254
That's the thing: most of the time, it's me including myself in someone else’s drama. Like a sibling getting into trouble (again), and suddenly, there are teams, commentary, and offense, and defense, etc.
In the end, this tendency attracts people who enjoy an audience and gladly put on a show. It's a vicious circle.
So now I'm learning how not to pick up any flags lying around, and that not anyone is part of "my team," and that I don't need to be on anyone's team.
(I'm grateful I never fell into celebrity drama. I suspect this is the same thing: filling the void with heightened emotions wherever they come from.)
>>6255
Ah! I never solved that one. Now that I am older (let's say, the second half of my life), I see it a good thing, because most of these "flashes in the pan" come back regularly, and it actually builds up. I'm now finishing stuff I started +20 years ago, and I see now that it is a blessing to have so much curiosity: I know what I could to do during the next few decades.
>>6256
I finally managed to cut reddit and 4chan a year ago, after many tries. It's worth the effort to keep trying.
Always a curious moment when extroverts post on da net. Would love for someone to include me in some drama sometime...
Anonymous :
1 day ago :
No.6255
>>6257
>>6254
That's the thing: most of the time, it's me including myself in someone else’s drama. Like a sibling getting into trouble (again), and suddenly, there are teams, commentary, and offense, and defense, etc.
In the end, this tendency attracts people who enjoy an audience and gladly put on a show. It's a vicious circle.
So now I'm learning how not to pick up any flags lying around, and that not anyone is part of "my team," and that I don't need to be on anyone's team.
(I'm grateful I never fell into celebrity drama. I suspect this is the same thing: filling the void with heightened emotions wherever they come from.)
>>6255
Ah! I never solved that one. Now that I am older (let's say, the second half of my life), I see it a good thing, because most of these "flashes in the pan" come back regularly, and it actually builds up. I'm now finishing stuff I started +20 years ago, and I see now that it is a blessing to have so much curiosity: I know what I could to do during the next few decades.
>>6256
I finally managed to cut reddit and 4chan a year ago, after many tries. It's worth the effort to keep trying.
I tend to get overexcited about things, mostly books and games, to the extent that it becomes difficult to concentrate on the here-and-now. However, the excitement is fleeting, before I realize, its object shifted so I have hard time finishing what I had been excited for in the first place. As a result of that, the previously blissful and evergreen feeling of excitement has been tainted for me, it is hard for me to give in and be in it as I never know how long I get to be in it/how quickly its object changes to smth. else. It has been effecting on and off for many years now. I am slowly making progress by tempering my excitement and pushing through projects before I start a new one + I also intermittently shelter myself from the online sphere in order to reduce the number of things I can get excited about...
Anonymous :
1 day ago :
No.6256
>>6257
>>6254
That's the thing: most of the time, it's me including myself in someone else’s drama. Like a sibling getting into trouble (again), and suddenly, there are teams, commentary, and offense, and defense, etc.
In the end, this tendency attracts people who enjoy an audience and gladly put on a show. It's a vicious circle.
So now I'm learning how not to pick up any flags lying around, and that not anyone is part of "my team," and that I don't need to be on anyone's team.
(I'm grateful I never fell into celebrity drama. I suspect this is the same thing: filling the void with heightened emotions wherever they come from.)
>>6255
Ah! I never solved that one. Now that I am older (let's say, the second half of my life), I see it a good thing, because most of these "flashes in the pan" come back regularly, and it actually builds up. I'm now finishing stuff I started +20 years ago, and I see now that it is a blessing to have so much curiosity: I know what I could to do during the next few decades.
>>6256
I finally managed to cut reddit and 4chan a year ago, after many tries. It's worth the effort to keep trying.
Abandoning myself, I do a lot of meditation and outdoor work to counter it but for my study I have to be on the computer. I get into the endless scroll, youtube videos, all manner of things I do not care for but hit some numb buzz. Theres a certain point I lose myself in it and then I becomes overwhelmed to getting back to my computer responsibilities that I continue getting deeper, become helpless. I also hate asking for help and don't help myself. I think that is the abandon, when I don't help myself. I live a fulfilling life, but this has been my bane for years and has taken so much of my life away. Like a lot of you here having unfettered internet access since 10 years old didn't help for internet addiction. In therapy for the first time in life and it's helping me to name it and get more extensive systems. Doing what needs doing as well, no short cutting myself, cheating myself in ways that don't exist like giving up the clothes halfway of hanging them by dumping on a table to dry instead of hanging them all up as an example
>>6254
Always a curious moment when extroverts post on da net. Would love for someone to include me in some drama sometime...
That's the thing: most of the time, it's me including myself in someone else’s drama. Like a sibling getting into trouble (again), and suddenly, there are teams, commentary, and offense, and defense, etc.
In the end, this tendency attracts people who enjoy an audience and gladly put on a show. It's a vicious circle.
So now I'm learning how not to pick up any flags lying around, and that not anyone is part of "my team," and that I don't need to be on anyone's team.
(I'm grateful I never fell into celebrity drama. I suspect this is the same thing: filling the void with heightened emotions wherever they come from.)
>>6255I tend to get overexcited about things, mostly books and games, to the extent that it becomes difficult to concentrate on the here-and-now. However, the excitement is fleeting, before I realize, its object shifted so I have hard time finishing what I had been excited for in the first place. As a result of that, the previously blissful and evergreen feeling of excitement has been tainted for me, it is hard for me to give in and be in it as I never know how long I get to be in it/how quickly its object changes to smth. else. It has been effecting on and off for many years now. I am slowly making progress by tempering my excitement and pushing through projects before I start a new one + I also intermittently shelter myself from the online sphere in order to reduce the number of things I can get excited about...
Ah! I never solved that one. Now that I am older (let's say, the second half of my life), I see it a good thing, because most of these "flashes in the pan" come back regularly, and it actually builds up. I'm now finishing stuff I started +20 years ago, and I see now that it is a blessing to have so much curiosity: I know what I could to do during the next few decades.
>>6256Abandoning myself, I do a lot of meditation and outdoor work to counter it but for my study I have to be on the computer. I get into the endless scroll, youtube videos, all manner of things I do not care for but hit some numb buzz. Theres a certain point I lose myself in it and then I becomes overwhelmed to getting back to my computer responsibilities that I continue getting deeper, become helpless. I also hate asking for help and don't help myself. I think that is the abandon, when I don't help myself. I live a fulfilling life, but this has been my bane for years and has taken so much of my life away. Like a lot of you here having unfettered internet access since 10 years old didn't help for internet addiction. In therapy for the first time in life and it's helping me to name it and get more extensive systems. Doing what needs doing as well, no short cutting myself, cheating myself in ways that don't exist like giving up the clothes halfway of hanging them by dumping on a table to dry instead of hanging them all up as an example
I finally managed to cut reddit and 4chan a year ago, after many tries. It's worth the effort to keep trying.