trying to go PARTY and stop HATING MY LIFE... I know some of you are also MISERABLE and ANTISOCIAL cunts. any tips are appreciated but please please please please don't make fun of my self-loathing!!!!!!!!!!!
how to have a good time and engage in the social arts as a miserable sperg tard rspcel :
Anonymous :
14 days ago :
No.10407
>>10412
>>10407 (OP)
also should've prefaced by saying I have no friends to speak of
Anonymous :
14 days ago :
No.10408
>>10410
>>10408
>Don't be that person who depends on substances to "open up" is all I can add, it's cringe and everyone can see through it.
that was my whole plan!!
>>10409
not invited to really anything. i'm going out to a salsa discotheque by myself.
>Even disregarding that, I'm just slowly giving up on the whole endeavour wholesale
have you tried, tho? like really tried
I never figured out how, and now I'm too old for it to matter. Don't be that person who depends on substances to "open up" is all I can add, it's cringe and everyone can see through it.
Anonymous :
14 days ago :
No.10409
>>10410
>>10408
>Don't be that person who depends on substances to "open up" is all I can add, it's cringe and everyone can see through it.
that was my whole plan!!
>>10409
not invited to really anything. i'm going out to a salsa discotheque by myself.
>Even disregarding that, I'm just slowly giving up on the whole endeavour wholesale
have you tried, tho? like really tried
You're getting invited to the parties, so it sounds like you're already ahead of me. Even disregarding that, I'm just slowly giving up on the whole endeavour wholesale, it never terribly mattered if I try to fit in, if I do not, whether I have a good day and can think straight and cough up some wit, or act like unresponsive drooling imbecile on a bad day.
>>10408
I never figured out how, and now I'm too old for it to matter. Don't be that person who depends on substances to "open up" is all I can add, it's cringe and everyone can see through it.
>Don't be that person who depends on substances to "open up" is all I can add, it's cringe and everyone can see through it.
that was my whole plan!!
>>10409You're getting invited to the parties, so it sounds like you're already ahead of me. Even disregarding that, I'm just slowly giving up on the whole endeavour wholesale, it never terribly mattered if I try to fit in, if I do not, whether I have a good day and can think straight and cough up some wit, or act like unresponsive drooling imbecile on a bad day.
not invited to really anything. i'm going out to a salsa discotheque by myself.
>Even disregarding that, I'm just slowly giving up on the whole endeavour wholesale
have you tried, tho? like really tried
Anonymous :
14 days ago :
No.10411
>>10421
Meh party has never been a good place to make friends I find, but >>10411 is right, and you just need to go full Dale Carnegie.
Then if you make mates one evening, just invite them right away to another event. If you provide the opportunity with an open invitation ("BTW, I'll be going there that day with some friends") people will like you/like it because most don't bother and they have an option with no expectation they might take.
The cheat code, especially if you're a man, is that you just have to emulate women and their way of relating to people: organizing and introducing people to each other, keeping in touch, offering opportunities and information with no expectation to avoid misunderstandings and you'll be/feel useful (less self-loathing), you'll meet people (more social) and hopefully you might enjoy it.
In short: read Dale Carnegie, emulate women (that side of humanity which doesn't kill itself as much and has strong friendships), be brave and change.
Literally just treat everyone like they're fascinating and insert a (short!) anecdote and you win. I know they're dull and stupid or whatever, but that doesn't matter. Just ask them about their cool tattoos and oh—I've been thinking about getting something too... You can be as miserable as you like, but by the point anyone actually wants to hear about you, you're already past the hard part of getting them to think you're interesting. Ask a friend to go with if you can.
This is assuming you're totally socially inept and can't joke around and talk freely without making a fool of yourself. N.B. making a fool of yourself is usually a personal evaluation after the fact.
>>10407 (OP)
also should've prefaced by saying I have no friends to speak of
Do you want friends or casual connections?
Do you think having one and/or both of these will lead to you being less miserable?
I generally find orientations pretty stagnant. I (with entropy trend towards) [not having] friends or casual connections because I don't value them because they don't make me less miserable. If I valued them I wouldn't have ended up antisocial.
Sorry you're getting very fatalistic replies we're all tapping into a matrix. (But enough to learn I don't like trying.)
Anonymous :
13 days ago :
No.10418
>>10422
>>10418
how are you? This is the biggest factor in this
>>10423
>>10416
Do you want friends or casual connections?
Do you think having one and/or both of these will lead to you being less miserable?
I generally find orientations pretty stagnant. I (with entropy trend towards) [not having] friends or casual connections because I don't value them because they don't make me less miserable. If I valued them I wouldn't have ended up antisocial.
Sorry you're getting very fatalistic replies we're all tapping into a matrix. (But enough to learn I don't like trying.)
any type of connection with another human will do
Meh party has never been a good place to make friends I find, but >>10411
Literally just treat everyone like they're fascinating and insert a (short!) anecdote and you win. I know they're dull and stupid or whatever, but that doesn't matter. Just ask them about their cool tattoos and oh—I've been thinking about getting something too... You can be as miserable as you like, but by the point anyone actually wants to hear about you, you're already past the hard part of getting them to think you're interesting. Ask a friend to go with if you can.
This is assuming you're totally socially inept and can't joke around and talk freely without making a fool of yourself. N.B. making a fool of yourself is usually a personal evaluation after the fact.
is right, and you just need to go full Dale Carnegie.
Then if you make mates one evening, just invite them right away to another event. If you provide the opportunity with an open invitation ("BTW, I'll be going there that day with some friends") people will like you/like it because most don't bother and they have an option with no expectation they might take.
The cheat code, especially if you're a man, is that you just have to emulate women and their way of relating to people: organizing and introducing people to each other, keeping in touch, offering opportunities and information with no expectation to avoid misunderstandings and you'll be/feel useful (less self-loathing), you'll meet people (more social) and hopefully you might enjoy it.
In short: read Dale Carnegie, emulate women (that side of humanity which doesn't kill itself as much and has strong friendships), be brave and change.
Anonymous :
13 days ago :
No.10434
>>10435
>>10434
Cringe to pregame? Drinking at bars is so prohibitively expensive, I've never in my whole life (32) not pregamed for any event. Though I can't imagine a single shot does anything, unless you're an American. You need two shots to even go over the limit.
<<10426
when I was 20 years old I pre-gamed with some cheap vodka (zubrowka)... one shot before leaving the house and lots of mints to mask it.
zoomoids say its cringe but i say zoomoids are cringe. so idk
I have to admit though, it did almost make me an alcoholic because I would rely on it when stressed/anxious. Also almost got in a wreck a few times, but I got better towards the end. however you know yourself better than I do. if you have an addictive personality/bad driving etc don't do it.
>>10434
<<10426
when I was 20 years old I pre-gamed with some cheap vodka (zubrowka)... one shot before leaving the house and lots of mints to mask it.
zoomoids say its cringe but i say zoomoids are cringe. so idk
I have to admit though, it did almost make me an alcoholic because I would rely on it when stressed/anxious. Also almost got in a wreck a few times, but I got better towards the end. however you know yourself better than I do. if you have an addictive personality/bad driving etc don't do it.
Cringe to pregame? Drinking at bars is so prohibitively expensive, I've never in my whole life (32) not pregamed for any event. Though I can't imagine a single shot does anything, unless you're an American. You need two shots to even go over the limit.