I asked a girl to dance with me at a Latin concert in the park today and she said no. I’m 30 and haven’t done anything like this in ages, but all the same feelings I remember experiencing in my 20s started welling up. I started wondering if I had gotten fat, if I looked old, if my haircut looked stupid, if I gave off a scent she could smell that told her “This person is worthless.” Intellectually I know these thoughts are overreactions and that rejection was common even when I was younger and had some success with women, but it’s been four hours and I’m still sitting here feeling like I’m no one.
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Anonymous :
44 days ago :
№ 12773
>>12790
>>12773 (OP)
It was the expectation that you would get something, that you wouldn't be rejected that you hold on to more than the actual rejection itself. Do not make the mistake that your emotions aren't logical in nature, for it is they who determine your logic itself.
>>12841>>12773 (OP)
You are completely worthless and you should kill yourself.
>>12843>>12773 (OP)
why did you stop at asking one girl?
>>12773 (OP)
It was the expectation that you would get something, that you wouldn't be rejected that you hold on to more than the actual rejection itself. Do not make the mistake that your emotions aren't logical in nature, for it is they who determine your logic itself.
>>12773 (OP)
You are completely worthless and you should kill yourself.
Anonymous :
42 days ago :
№ 12843
>>12844
>>12843
The gyno-hivemind is out to get me. I can only trust the ones who are on the wrong frequency and can't communicate with it (bpd, autists, other misfits). If I try to engage with any other femoid it devolves into close quarters combat.
>>12773 (OP)
why did you stop at asking one girl?
Anonymous :
42 days ago :
№ 12844
>>12845
>>12844 Sounds like she dodged a bullet
>>12861>>12844
The most attrition I've received online and off has been from "irregular" men like yourself. I never bought this line of thinking but at least you're not taking the mainstream incel AWALT stance
>>12865>>12844
Lmao, it's funny that I basically agree with you and operate the same way, but you put a basic true-ism (like attracts like) through a hyper-autist filter. I think at something like a dance event though, most people's "standards" are lowered and it might well be worth trying to break out of the paradigm you've lashed yourself to.
>>12843
>>12773 (OP)
why did you stop at asking one girl?
The gyno-hivemind is out to get me. I can only trust the ones who are on the wrong frequency and can't communicate with it (bpd, autists, other misfits). If I try to engage with any other femoid it devolves into close quarters combat.
>>12844
>>12843
The gyno-hivemind is out to get me. I can only trust the ones who are on the wrong frequency and can't communicate with it (bpd, autists, other misfits). If I try to engage with any other femoid it devolves into close quarters combat.
The most attrition I've received online and off has been from "irregular" men like yourself. I never bought this line of thinking but at least you're not taking the mainstream incel AWALT stance
>>12844
>>12843
The gyno-hivemind is out to get me. I can only trust the ones who are on the wrong frequency and can't communicate with it (bpd, autists, other misfits). If I try to engage with any other femoid it devolves into close quarters combat.
Lmao, it's funny that I basically agree with you and operate the same way, but you put a basic true-ism (like attracts like) through a hyper-autist filter. I think at something like a dance event though, most people's "standards" are lowered and it might well be worth trying to break out of the paradigm you've lashed yourself to.
Anonymous :
42 days ago :
№ 12866
>>12868
>>12866
substack.com/home/post/p-213657848
>Not too many years ago, back when I lived in Texas, I had a friend who, similarly to me, was what the kids call “slightly autistic”.
>She reminded me of myself a year before I met her: she took most of what guys said at face value, and assumed the best intentions from almost everyone she was approached by. In her head, if a guy went on even one date with her, it was because he wanted to be her boyfriend. I found myself constantly reminding her that guys usually don’t have the best intentions, especially the ones we met while out at bars and clubs. Her main complaint about dating: “why can’t people just say what they mean?”
>In many online dating advice communities, which happen to be predominantly neurodivergent (ND) people1, this is the main complaint I hear. While everyone, in a general sense, dislikes deception or manipulation, it’s a particular thorn in the side of ND people.
>This is because, while they may not have struggled to the same degree as my Texas friend, it requires much more cognitive work for them to detect and react to the small, inherent amounts of deception involved in dating. The “dating game” includes a bit of what psychologists call courtship deception, the socially acceptable degree to which people self-promote or play hard-to-get in dating dynamics.
>For this reason, certain types of manipulation can still fly under their radar when it wouldn’t for neurotypical women.
>>12937>>12866
They take advantage of autistic girls, but they have a genuine preference for BPD/narcissistic women because they like it when women treat them like shit.
Men don't reminisce about the timid autistic girl or the chaste tradwife, but they'll spend years daydreaming about their BPD ex. Go to the /r/BPDlovedones subreddit and it's full of men ruminating on their BPD ex-girlfriend's thought processes or saying they stayed despite being emotionally abused because le sex was craaaazyyyy.
its easier for men to take advantage of women who have bpd or are autistic. after the inevitable break ups of course they'll make posts characterising bpd girls as evil. "bad person disorder".
Anonymous :
42 days ago :
№ 12867
>>12879
>>12867 when did I say they're the same? just because they're different doesn't mean they both can't be taken advantage of
"autism" in women has nothing to do with women with BPD, you could not find two more opposite types of person on Earth without crossing into the other gender. I don't know why you all are grouping the two together. I'm asking seriously here.
Anonymous :
42 days ago :
№ 12868
>>12878
>>12868
thanks for sharing. Idk to what degree men are aware of this advantage they have over neurotypical women but I'm not going to give them the benefit of the doubt
>>12866
its easier for men to take advantage of women who have bpd or are autistic. after the inevitable break ups of course they'll make posts characterising bpd girls as evil. "bad person disorder".
substack.com/home/post/p-213657848
>Not too many years ago, back when I lived in Texas, I had a friend who, similarly to me, was what the kids call “slightly autistic”.
>She reminded me of myself a year before I met her: she took most of what guys said at face value, and assumed the best intentions from almost everyone she was approached by. In her head, if a guy went on even one date with her, it was because he wanted to be her boyfriend. I found myself constantly reminding her that guys usually don’t have the best intentions, especially the ones we met while out at bars and clubs. Her main complaint about dating: “why can’t people just say what they mean?”
>In many online dating advice communities, which happen to be predominantly neurodivergent (ND) people1, this is the main complaint I hear. While everyone, in a general sense, dislikes deception or manipulation, it’s a particular thorn in the side of ND people.
>This is because, while they may not have struggled to the same degree as my Texas friend, it requires much more cognitive work for them to detect and react to the small, inherent amounts of deception involved in dating. The “dating game” includes a bit of what psychologists call courtship deception, the socially acceptable degree to which people self-promote or play hard-to-get in dating dynamics.
>For this reason, certain types of manipulation can still fly under their radar when it wouldn’t for neurotypical women.
it was a decent substack essay, but so bogged down by the American inability to just spit it out-- those post-woke hangups, instead of just calling a spade a space she dances around naming losers and social dropouts for what they are, unwilling to place them in a static social hierarchy so she puts everything on their clothing/appearance *choice*; plus the awful, forced exclamation point usage people seem have to picked up in the last few years. I blame hackernews for the latter. The combination of the two irritates me, but you find it a lot in female millennial writing. I did want to like it though which is why I'm complaining, if it was junk I would just have passed it over. But the typical lack of any perspective from the usual vocal suspects shows itself time and time again
>>12868
>>12866
substack.com/home/post/p-213657848
>Not too many years ago, back when I lived in Texas, I had a friend who, similarly to me, was what the kids call “slightly autistic”.
>She reminded me of myself a year before I met her: she took most of what guys said at face value, and assumed the best intentions from almost everyone she was approached by. In her head, if a guy went on even one date with her, it was because he wanted to be her boyfriend. I found myself constantly reminding her that guys usually don’t have the best intentions, especially the ones we met while out at bars and clubs. Her main complaint about dating: “why can’t people just say what they mean?”
>In many online dating advice communities, which happen to be predominantly neurodivergent (ND) people1, this is the main complaint I hear. While everyone, in a general sense, dislikes deception or manipulation, it’s a particular thorn in the side of ND people.
>This is because, while they may not have struggled to the same degree as my Texas friend, it requires much more cognitive work for them to detect and react to the small, inherent amounts of deception involved in dating. The “dating game” includes a bit of what psychologists call courtship deception, the socially acceptable degree to which people self-promote or play hard-to-get in dating dynamics.
>For this reason, certain types of manipulation can still fly under their radar when it wouldn’t for neurotypical women.
thanks for sharing. Idk to what degree men are aware of this advantage they have over neurotypical women but I'm not going to give them the benefit of the doubt
>>12867
"autism" in women has nothing to do with women with BPD, you could not find two more opposite types of person on Earth without crossing into the other gender. I don't know why you all are grouping the two together. I'm asking seriously here.
when did I say they're the same? just because they're different doesn't mean they both can't be taken advantage of
Anonymous :
41 days ago :
№ 12880
>>12881
>>12880
This is what you deserve for targeting mentally ill women predator
>>12882>>12880
you post genderslop you get genderslop
>>12884>>12880
Sorry for having contributed to that. I assume if I asked a guy to dance he'd say no, but I don't go out and socialize, so that scenario hasn't happened. In that sense, you're better than me for having tried in the first place.
I regret having made this thread.
>>12880
I regret having made this thread.
Sorry for having contributed to that. I assume if I asked a guy to dance he'd say no, but I don't go out and socialize, so that scenario hasn't happened. In that sense, you're better than me for having tried in the first place.
>>12866
its easier for men to take advantage of women who have bpd or are autistic. after the inevitable break ups of course they'll make posts characterising bpd girls as evil. "bad person disorder".
They take advantage of autistic girls, but they have a genuine preference for BPD/narcissistic women because they like it when women treat them like shit.
Men don't reminisce about the timid autistic girl or the chaste tradwife, but they'll spend years daydreaming about their BPD ex. Go to the /r/BPDlovedones subreddit and it's full of men ruminating on their BPD ex-girlfriend's thought processes or saying they stayed despite being emotionally abused because le sex was craaaazyyyy.
Why was this even approved? You can actually post sad sgit about your life as an old man on the main sub